No, it isn’t your job. But if you want people to stop using a word it really helps to offer them alternatives. It definitely works for ableist language at least, i’d figure it would work for plenty of other things too.
To be honest I’m not really sure what the real point of saying dmab is for trans women. There isn’t really a single instance where dmab would be more accurate and fitting then trans women. Though I could just be missing something
CAMAB and CAFAB, along with AMAB, AFAB, MAAB and FAAB were coined by trans people in order to contextualize the experience of being trans and advancing the way we talk about trans people beyond phrases like “trapped in the wrong body” or “MTF/FTM.”
A couple of years ago dyadic and intersex people started trying to claim that CAMAB and CAFAB were stolen from them, and that trans people need to stop using these terms.
No one is using these terms to gain glitterqueer points. These terms didn’t appropriate anyone’s identity. Plus, just like the last couple of times I’ve seen this crap go around, they’ll just start claiming any new words are also appropriation. It’s all about pushing trans people to abandon any and all terminology and concepts used to interpret and explain being trans.
It is bullshit that dyadic people are not assigned a sex at birth. The doctor literally assigns one. “It’s a boy” or “it’s a girl” both being assignments that define both sex and gender, whatever may be the reality for any given newborn.
It’s the standard strategy of claiming ownership of anything and everything that has ever belonged to trans women, that trans women have produced, etc. It’s not dissimilar to the way trans women have basically been written out of early second wave feminism and recharacterized as sexual predators seeking to poison cis women’s communities.