chest binding = back pain?

is back pain from chest binding common?

i’m trying to figure out if the back pain i’m having from my new binders is a common thing or if it’s a side effect of binding with lordosis…. >.>;; i don’t know why, but it never occurred to me before now that my abnormal spinal curvature would make binding more painful…

but then again, back pain isn’t at all uncommon for me, so it shouldn’t surprise me that binding would exacerbate that…. ugh.




There is truth to stereotypes, but this does not mean that somebody should feel pressured to follow one because it’s what society says they should do. A christian gay does not have to become agnostic. A femme does not have to become butch just to be seen as a lesbian (an issue known as Femme Invisibility). A masculine straight girl should not have to prove that she is straight by becoming feminine!

Stereotypes are not a tool for you to find out somebody’s sexuality or gender identity. 

This is important

Love this post



Sometimes I feel like people interpret demisexuality in a way that means we won’t kiss anybody ever who we don’t have a personal relationship with.  I would just like to say I’m demi and I’ve gone to clubs and made out with some people and the difference between them and the people I kiss that I have relationships with is a very real and tangible feeling called sexual attraction

It’s the difference between watching a play vs. watching a play with your friend in it.  One can be fun but the other is amazing






I made a Powerpoint!
Feel free to add any info that I left out that you think is important~

psst biromantic means being attracted to two or more genders— multiple genders!! but this is pretty good. and gray-romantic is just as complicated as gray-asexual, that’s why wtf-romantic and demi-romantic are types of gray-romantic!

—shapes, yr friendly gray-romantic making sure the best flags get reblogged

Isn’t being romantically attracted to two or more or no genders panromantic? (like pansexual)

being romantically attracted to all genders is panromantic and being attracted to no genders is aromantic! someone who is attracted to all or multiple genders might decide to identify as bi or pan for different reasons, here’s a cool, brief post of one person’s answer to why they use bi or pan!

i was so about to comment on the faulty definition of bi* given in the presentation before i scrolled down and was pleasantly surprised to see that someone else had already done so. <3









Source: Orientation Police by Bill Roundy

This is cute as fuck and describes pretty accurately how I feel too.

This comic is included Anything that Loves edited by Zan Christensen.  

aside from this comic being really cute and honest, it also points out this really huge glaring problem in the gay community in relation to trans-men.

in my experience with a lot of gay men, they have this extremely purist view when it comes to what being a “real man” is, which is bad enough when you have different gay subcultures (bears, gymrats, etc) who have different specific definitions of what a “real man” is.

however for the most part, many gay men seem to agree upon a point of leaving trans-men not only out of their gender, but out of their sexuality as well and I have a real fucking problem with that.

i’m pretty open about things that relate to my sexuality, and i myself identify more or less as a homosexual, but i’ve found the worst part in the gay community is dealing with this bullshit. eventually i found that i at least have the luxury of telling guys to fuck off if i don’t meet their standards, but i know that’s a lot harder for folk when they seem to have the entire population of homosexuals more or less invalidating not only their gender, but their orientation as well.

with all of that said, i just ask this. if you happen to be a cisgender homosexual, like myself, don’t tell other gay men that they aren’t actually gay if they’re dating or have had relations with a trans-man because that’s a load of fucking bullshit.

more important, under any circumstance do not tell a trans-man they’re not a man or that they aren’t allowed to like other men who are homosexual, be they cis or trans.

that’s all i really wanted to say.

hey uhhh my dash seems to need this right now hello lets be better informed

I like the ‘also, why are you so obsessed with my boyfriend’s junk?’ bit

I like the “no gay man can handle vagina” bit, because you can read it two ways, and also I feel like people don’t know/ forget about the Kinsey scale. “The world is not to be divided into sheep and goats. It is a fundamental of taxonomy that nature rarely deals with discrete categories.”